TRR Podcast - Season 6 Episode 63

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"Based on what I value, this is what I should choose. Based on what I choose, this is where I'm setting the boundary. And so it gives you this framework for living your life in a very fulfilled way." -Alena Conley

Episode Title: “I’m Over Imposter Syndrome” with Alena Conley

Episode Summary: In this enlightening episode, Alena Conley engages in a heartfelt conversation about imposter syndrome, a common issue that many grapple with. Alena shares her personal experiences, including her battles with self-doubt and social anxiety. She provides actionable steps and exercises, such as Byron Katie's 'The Work', that listeners can use to tackle their own feelings of inadequacy.

Key Points:

• Alena explores the societal pressures that contribute to the evolution of identity and the importance of embracing our individual paths.

• They delve into the concept of imposter syndrome, discussing how it manifests and its effects on individuals.

• Alena shares her journey with social anxiety and self-doubt, and how she has used self-awareness as a tool for self-improvement.

• Alena introduces Byron Katie's 'The Work', a series of four questions designed to challenge self-doubt and negative thoughts.

• The episode stresses the importance of crafting a new identity and establishing personal values and interests.

• Alena discusses the significance of setting boundaries and prioritizing based on personal values for a more fulfilled life.

Recommended Actions:

• Listeners are encouraged to practice the exercises shared in the episode to confront their feelings of being an 'imposter'.

• Reflect on personal values and interests to craft a new identity.

• Practice visualization to align with the desired identity.

• Register for Alena's Year of You workshop for further guidance and support.

Additional Resources:

Books:

• "The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women" by Valerie Young: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/195268/the-secret-thoughts-of-successful-women-by-valerie-young/

• "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" by Susan Cain: https://archive.org/details/quiet-the_power_of_introverts_in_a_world_that_cant_stop_talking

• "Dare to Lead" by Brené Brown: https://brenebrown.com/hubs/dare-to-lead/

• "The Imposter Cure: Escape the Mind-Trap of Imposter Syndrome" by Jessamy Hibberd: https://readingraphics.com/book-summary-the-imposter-cure/

• "The Pathfinder: How to Choose or Change Your Career for a Lifetime of Satisfaction and Success" by Nicholas Lore: https://www.everand.com/book/224343954/The-Pathfinder-How-to-Choose-or-Change-Your-Career-for-a-Lifetime-of-Satisfaction-and-Success

Podcasts:

• "The Confidence Code" by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman: https://learnconfidencecode.com/

• "You Are Not Your Resume" by Emily McDowell: https://www.themuse.com/advice/you-are-not-your-resume

• "The Unmistakable Creative" by Srinivas Rao: https://podcast.unmistakablecreative.com/

• "On Being" by Krista Tippett: https://onbeing.org/starting-points/new-to-on-being-start-here/

• "The One You Feed" by Eric Thomas: https://www.oneyoufeed.net/

Articles:

• "The Imposter Syndrome Experience: An article about what it actually feels like to live with imposter syndrome" by The New Yorker: https://tanyageisler.com/blog/imposter-syndrome-new-yorker

• "How to Overcome Imposter Syndrome and Stop Feeling Like a Fraud" by Harvard Business Review: https://store.hbr.org/product/how-to-overcome-impostor-syndrome-hbr-special-issue/SPSU23

• "Imposter Syndrome: Why You Might Be Feeling Like a Fraud (Even If You're Not)" by Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-would-aristotle-do/202206/do-you-have-imposter-syndrome

• "Your Worth Has Nothing to Do with Your Work: Embracing Your Identity Beyond Your Job" by TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LzsZvsPm52s

• "The Power of Vulnerability: Brené Brown at TEDxHouston" by TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o

Websites:

• The Imposter Cure: https://readingraphics.com/book-summary-the-imposter-cure/

• The Confidence Code: https://learnconfidencecode.com/

• Quiet: The Power of Introverts: https://archive.org/details/quiet-the_power_of_introverts_in_a_world_that_cant_stop_talking

• The Jed Foundation: https://jedfoundation.org/

• The Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

Non-Fiction:

• "The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven, Step-by-Step Techniques for Overcoming Your Fear" by Martin M. Antony and Richard P. Swinson: https://www.amazon.com/Shyness-Social-Anxiety-Workbook-Step/dp/1572245530

• "How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety" by Ellen Hendriksen: https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Yourself-Critic-Anxiety-ebook/dp/B074ZPCH67

• "The Confidence Gap: A Guide to Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt" by Russ Harris: https://www.target.com/p/the-confidence-gap-by-russ-harris-paperback/-/A-13564710

• "Dare to Lead" by Brené Brown: https://brenebrown.com/book/dare-to-lead/

• "The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook" by Edmund J. Bourne: https://www.amazon.com/Anxiety-Phobia-Workbook-Edmund-Bourne-ebook/dp/B07YWBGMTZ

Fiction:

• "Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine" by Gail Honeyman: https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2451457637

• "Fangirl" by Rainbow Rowell: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/16068905-fangirl

• "The Perks of Being a Wallflower" by Stephen Chbosky: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22628.The_Perks_of_Being_a_Wallflower

• "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" by Susan Cain: https://archive.org/details/quiet-the_power_of_introverts_in_a_world_that_cant_stop_talking